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Merry Christmas Rachel and Your Loving Family  / Pam Mom To Aaron Sellitto   Read >>
Merry Christmas Rachel and Your Loving Family  / Pam Mom To Aaron Sellitto
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Thinking of you  / Marjorie Pour-Ghasemi   Read >>
Thinking of you  / Marjorie Pour-Ghasemi
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Thinking of you and your Mom this Thanksgiving  / Marjorie Pour-Ghasemi   Read >>
Thinking of you and your Mom this Thanksgiving  / Marjorie Pour-Ghasemi

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Thanksgiving wishes  / Pam Mom To Aaron Sellitto   Read >>
Thanksgiving wishes  / Pam Mom To Aaron Sellitto
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THANK YOU  / BRITTANY SYFERT'S GMA ROSE   Read >>
THANK YOU  / BRITTANY SYFERT'S GMA ROSE

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smile / Scrapy Barnes (dad)  Read >>
smile / Scrapy Barnes (dad)
If anyone had a REAL smile this side of HEAVEN, Rachel, it was you. No one ever talks about you with out saying something about your smile. You had a smile that shows what love for one another is all about . Days got hard and long but somehow someway you  you would  have a smile thru it all . I miss you and  look to see  you again soon, but until then I will see you everyday in something that goes on in this short life.   Close
So sorry  / Shirley Baer (none)  Read >>
So sorry  / Shirley Baer (none)
I am so sorry for the loss of your beautiful daughter.   You are in my prayers as her angel date is tomorrow.. A friend in grief. Close
Missing you on your bday and everyday!  / Jessica Brown (Friend)  Read >>
Missing you on your bday and everyday!  / Jessica Brown (Friend)

Ray

Today is your 27th birthday! How I wish I could call you and tell you happy birthday! But I know you are having the best bday in heaven! You are always on my mind! I have a lil boy now and ooh how I wish that he could meet you and know the best friend that I have ever had! But I tell him about you all the time! I miss you soo much! NExt week is my birthday I always looked forward to our calls on each others birthdays and I loved that we were only a week apart! A butterfly landed on my arm and hand the other day and it made me feel like you were there with me! It stayed for the longest time! I was so amazed! It was so pretty! I know I am going on and on but I jsut wanted to tell you that I love and miss you lots! Happy Birthday Ray Ray!

Love you always!

Jessica "your Dumplin"

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Happy birthday, Rachel!  / Christian Kidd   Read >>
Happy birthday, Rachel!  / Christian Kidd

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I measure every Grief I meet  / Mom   Read >>
I measure every Grief I meet  / Mom

I measure every Grief I meet
With narrow probing Eyes –
I wonder if It weighs like Mine –
Or has an Easier size.

I wonder if They bore it long –
Or did it just begin –
I could not tell the Date of Mine –
It feels so old a pain –

I wonder if it hurts to live –
And if They have to try –
And whether – could They choose between –
It would not be – to die –

I note that Some – gone patient long –
At length renew their smile –
An imitation of a Light
That has so little Oil –

I wonder if when Years have piled –
Some Thousands – on the Harm –
That hurt them early – such a lapse
Could give them any Balm –

Or would they go on aching still
Through Centuries of Nerve –
Enlightened to a larger Pain –
In Contrast with the Love –

The Grieved – are many – I am told –
There is the various Cause –
Death – is but one – and comes but once –
And only nails the eyes –

There's Grief of Want – and grief of Cold –
A sort they call "Despair" –
There's Banishment from native Eyes –
In Sight of Native Air –

And though I may not guess the kind –
Correctly – yet to me
A piercing Comfort it affords
In passing Calvary –

To note the fashions – of the Cross –
And how they're mostly worn –
Still fascinated to presume
That Some – are like My Own –

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Randomness / Mom   Read >>
Randomness / Mom

Today was a beautiful day!  90 degrees on the 2nd of April-unreal. After a long winter spring is here!  The kids have been here this week and we have had a wonderful time.  They bring such joy to my heart-just as they did to yours.  Dad and the boys are working on their little garden.  They planted beans and corn cause you're supposed to do that on Good Friday. At least that's what your Papaw Cook always said.  The kids and I dyed eggs- some just for you. I remember the last time we dyed eggs together.  You were sick but it was a happy day. I often think back to our times together. There were a lot of hard times but so many more wonderful times. I am truly blessed to have had you in my life. 

We're going to see"your girl" Carrie Underwood tomorrow night at the Expo. We'll be thinking of you! 

 I took a pot of tulips a little basket with some of your eggs and a little stuffed lamb to you today. The trees and flowers on the cemetery are blooming and the grass is getting green.

Easter is the best day of the year!  Even though my heart breaks every day and my whole being aches to be with you I am filled with the peace and joy of our Lord and Savior.  Because He lives I can face tomorrow! Thanks be to His loving grace and mercy!

I love you my sunshine girl.  I love you more today than yesterday and even more tomorrow. I will always love you!

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The Gap  / Mom   Read >>
The Gap  / Mom
The gap between those who have lost children & those who have not is profoundly difficult to bridge. No one whose children are well and intact can be expected to understand what parents who have lost children have absorbed & what they bear. Our children come to us through every blade of grass every crack in the sidewalk every bowl of breakfast cereal. We seek contact with their atoms -in our child's Memory Box- their lock of hair their baby blanket their clothing. We reach for what was integrally woven into the fabric of our lives now torn & shredded.
A black hole has been blown through our souls & indeed it often does not allow the light to escape. It is a difficult place. For us to enter there is to be cut deeply & torn anew each time we go there by the jagged edges of our loss. Yet we return again & again for that is where our children now reside. This will be so for years to come & it will change us profoundly. At some point in the distant future the edges of that hole will have tempered & softened but the empty space will remain - a life sentence.

Our friends will change through this. There is no avoiding it. We grieve for our children in part through talking about them & our feelings for having lost them. Some go there with us others cannot & through their denial & a further measure however unwittingly to an already heavy burden. Assuming that we may be feeling "better" six months later is simply "to not get it." The excruciating & isolating reality that bereaved parents feel is hermetically sealed from the nature of any other human experience. Thus it is a trap - those whose compassion & insight we most need are those for whom we abhor the experience that would allow them that sensitivity & capacity. And yet somehow there are those each in their own fashion who have found a way to reach us & stay to our comfort. They have understood again each in their own way that our children remain our children through our memory of them. Their memory is sustained through speaking about them & our feelings about their death. Deny this & you deny their life. Deny their life & you no longer have a place in ours.

We recognize that we have moved to an emotional place where it is often very difficult to reach us. Our attempts to be normal are painful & the day to day carries a silent screaming anguish that accompanies us sometimes from moment to moment. Were we to give it its own voice we fear we would become truly unreachable & so we remain "strong" for a host of reasons even as the strength saps our energy & drains our will. Were we to act out our true feelings we would be impossible to be with. We resent having to act normal yet we dare not do otherwise. People who understand this dynamic are our gold standard. Working our way through this over the years will change us as does every experience - & extreme experience changes one extremely. We know we will have recovered when as we have read it is no longer so painful to be normal. We do not know who we will be at that point or who will still be with us.

We have read that the gap is so difficult that often bereaved parents must attempt to reach out to friends & relatives or risk losing them. This is our attempt.
For those untarnished by such events who wish to know in some way what they thankfully do not know read this.
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Losing a Child  / Mom   Read >>
Losing a Child  / Mom
More than a year has passed since these parents lost their children in the 26 December 2004 tsunami; most of them also lost their homes and possessions. But the agony of being homeless and without possessions pales in comparison to experiencing the death of a loved one especially one’s child.

“If you lose a child even as a baby not a day goes by that you don’t think of him” my friend confided in me recently. “My son died thirty years ago and he was less than a month old but I’ve known him at two at eight as a teenager as a young man. I see him in the face of almost every child adolescent and 20-something-year-old person I’ve met in these years. I’ve imagined him playing soccer fishing building a tree house reading a book washing the dishes learning to cook swimming in the ocean falling in love having his heart broken having children of his own and back again learning to walk doing homework you name it. It doesn’t matter how old your child is when you lose him; the pain is constant and the sense of loss never leaves you. My heart breaks every time I hear of another parent losing a child; I can’t imagine the pain of losing one who has lived long enough to develop a personality because I know all too well that losing your child even as an infant is so devastating.”

Parents who have lost children respond in so many different ways; there is no single way to grieve. And not much brings comfort. The worst things bereft parents have confided to me are being told “you’ll get over it” or being treated like a pariah as if it’s a contagious condition or having people avoid the subject of your dead child or – perhaps worst of all – hearing “you can always have other children”.
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Thinking of you and your Mom with love.  / Marjorie Pour-Ghasemi (Friend)  Read >>
Thinking of you and your Mom with love.  / Marjorie Pour-Ghasemi (Friend)
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Missing You Always  / Your Greatest Fan   Read >>
Missing You Always  / Your Greatest Fan
Be with me always--take any form--drive me mad! only DO not leave me in this abyss where I cannot find you! Oh God! it is unutterable! I CANNOT live without my life! I CANNOT live without my soul!'"
- Emily Bronte Wuthering Heights Ch. 16
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Merry Christmas from our Family to Yours  / Pam Mom To Aaron Sellitto   Read >>
Merry Christmas from our Family to Yours  / Pam Mom To Aaron Sellitto
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Better than I've Ever Been by Cindy Bullens  / Mom   Read >>
Better than I've Ever Been by Cindy Bullens  / Mom

there's been a lot of things said about me since that awful day

i'm not the person that i used to be and that i'll never be the same

That's true-no doubt
But I know more now what life is about and

I laugh louder
Cry harder
Take less time to make up my mind and I
Think smarter
Go slower
I know what I want
And what I don't
I'll be better than I've ever been
Meibe I'll be better than I've ever been.

If someone told me twenty years ago that this would be my life

i'd lose the greatest gift that love can show

i'd have said "no i wont survive"

dont count me out sometimes im stronger than ive ever felt and i

 laugh louder
Cry harder
Take less time to make up my mind and I
Think smarter
Go slower
I know what I want
And what I don't
I'll be better than I've ever been
Meibe I'll be better than I've ever been.


There's a curious freedom
Rising up from the dark
Some kind of strength I've never had

Though I'd trade it in a second just
To have you back
I gotta try to make some good out of the bad so i

laugh louder
Cry harder
Take less time to make up my mind and I
Think smarter
love deeper

I know what I want
And what I don't
I'll be better than I've ever been 
better than I've ever been.

You would understand Rach that it is small stuff. :)

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Thinking of you and your Mom.  / Marjorie Pour-Ghasemi   Read >>
Thinking of you and your Mom.  / Marjorie Pour-Ghasemi
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Prayers for family  / Karen Jenkins (None)  Read >>
Prayers for family  / Karen Jenkins (None)

Mei God bless and comfort you on this Angelversary of your

beautiful Angel Rachel.  We walk a long hard lonely painful

road of pain and sorrow.  We never forget our precious child.

My prayers and blessings to you always.

 

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IM MEMORY OF RACHEL  / Carol Angel Michael's Mom (no)  Read >>
IM MEMORY OF RACHEL  / Carol Angel Michael's Mom (no)

Remembering your Precious Angel Rachel on her  heavenly anniversary.
A candle will burn in memory of your precious angel.
You are in my thoughts and prayers. I pray your day will be peaceful.
Your are not alone on this road of grief that we now share.
With love
Carol

www.myangelsonmichael.com

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